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This is a pg-13/R rated post, due to some language that may be offensive to readers.
It is an often-performed intellectually inhibitive action: the dismissive, enabling silence. It happens not only in online forums, but in real life conversations.
A very good friend of mine, her boyfriend and I were going to see Drag Me To Hell on Friday.
We began talking about Grease, and the boyfriend — let’s call him Tom — said, “I don’t like the moral of the story: it’s basically if you become a whore, you’ll get the guy.”
WHORE: –noun 1. a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet.
Poor Sandy, branded for nothing.
My friend began questioning the term, asking if “whore” was the word he intended to use.
“Whore” to him, would be a female that “put out”. My friend noted that then, that would classify her as a “whore.” He said that it was different, that she was not a “whore”, and that perhaps Sandy was not a “whore”, rather she dressed “whore-ishly” for the historical context because of her exposed shoulders, midriff .
Interesting things happen when you begin to question another’s language informally, respectfully.
On the other hand, there are incidences like this:
216.198.183.51 Submitted on 2009/06/04 at 8:23pm
your right to vote needs to be revoked
It is irksome to me that one would take the time out to give such unhelpful criticism. What kind of charge did this person get when submitting this comment? Did they feel politically active? Personally active?
I’m likewise interested in the manner in which the reader disagreed. Instead of being constructively critical, they chose the “silence” route, which is neither helpful for my own political growth nor, I might say, theirs.
It’s unfortunate that people (such as the person on the other end of this comment) passionately “across the table” from my views are stringently non-talk.
Alas and alack.
Then again, folks like Dan Carlin and the anonymous writer of the bumper sticker I liked seeing the other day, believe that “If you’re not outraged, you’re not paying attention.”
Carlin is always saying things on his podcast saying that if his ideas haven’t made you angry yet, they will.
So perhaps I should be, in a way, pleased that someone is paying attention!
There was once a boy named Carl. He was regularly taunted at school. His mother visited the school, sat in on classes. The taunting continued. Carl ended his life of 11 years with an electrical cord.
There is a bar in downtown Phoenix. There is one television in the small pub. It’s a split screen view of the outside, due to the frequency of gay-bashings in the area.
There is a LA-based rapper named Pam Jones. She was held at gunpoint by several individuals, beaten and raped. People laughed.
It’s frightening. It’s maddening. It’s incredibly, deeply, sad that this is permissible.
Hyper-gender: displaying or enacting an extreme form of stereotypical gender-based paradigms in an online setting.
Rape has been a form of pop-entertainment long before SVU and Seth Rogen. And unfortunately, they do know what they do.
Beatings, tauntings, rapes haven’t transferred from the real world to the web. They’ve been translated. Drunk on anonymity, trolls have an outlet to let loose even the degradations they wouldn’t have in face-to-face social situations.
As absolutely maddening the comments in the above link is, I’ve got to believe there’s humanity in them, regardless that they post in arbitrary message boards just to add in a racist slur against a rape victim.
Our system is not lift as you rise. Our system is race to the bottom. And by “not losing”, by being the “special interest” group that’s not on the bottom, you win.
So let’s all laugh at Krayzie and his racist, sexist slurs, because it makes us feel better about being politically, economically, sub-par…?
A big ball of bigotry is rolling towards you. Do you side step it, ride it like a wave? It’s an issue of momentum.
One of the most controversial articles stipulates the wife "is bound to preen for her husband as and when he desires."
Thanks to the wonderfully organized and on-the-ball blogging at The Sauda Voice I’ve just learned that the Afghan president has legalized the rape of Shiite wives.
“Unless the wife is ill or has any kind of illness that intercourse could aggravate, the wife is bound to give a positive response to the sexual desires of her husband.”
